(Jesus in Matt 5:37)
When Maria and I try to raise our kids it's not just important that they learn to obey and show respect, but to also understand how and why... This wasn't as important when they were little as when they are teenagers. We have to be extremely clear and motivate why we believe what we believe in av very thought-through, united and reinforced way, in order for them to feel secure.
When I discipline my German Shepherd Tyson, it's not just about meatballs, being all mushy and love... My body language, tone of voice and posture have to breathe security, clearness and an iron will, or the beast will take over...:)
As Christian leaders are both parents, trainers and shepherds. Jesus meant that being unclear is of the devil. He said that a "yes/no" answer is from the evil one. The priest has to dare to say exactly what the Bible says with no "round-about-way". The pastor has to dare to say a clear yes or no and not wiggle himself out of the situation like a politician under pressure during an election... We do not lose anything by being clear when meeting with our non-Christian friends, on the contrary. All of a sudden you are the one to trust. You are worthy of listening to because you are different and stand for that. Clearness is wanted! Being clear and love is a strong combination that gives security!